From futile to fruitful
It’s a phrase I’ve heard many times but only recently took on a new meaning:
Resistance is futile.
I’ve always understood it from a standpoint of surrender. Accept what is happening because it’s not going to stop happening so stop protesting or arguing.
That can certainly be a dicey way to look at things (just rolling over and accepting). But I started to see it in its more figurative, emotional meaning:
Stop resisting WHY something is (or is not) the way it is, and instead, focus your energy on how you want to engage based on the REALITY of what is (the thing you are resisting being true).
That is what struck me.
When I’m fighting something, I’m not usually changing it. I’m fighting about why it shouldn’t be that way or why it never should have happened or what it should be instead…all of which is futile, because any given thing is only, exactly, what it is, irrespective of how or why it is that way.
So when I can let all that go, the focus becomes: OK, what do I want to feel/think/do about what IS?
And THAT is fruitful.
